My 11 year old son, John, since he was tiny has followed in the footsteps of his dad and adored TV and his games consoles, he has an Xbox, a DS and a PlayStation – he was a gripped by technology. This was OK. At first I didn’t mind his passion for gaming and TV and we do live in an age where this technology is prevalent but it did start to become everything that was important in his life – he didn’t want to do anything other than sit and game. I love my son and I thought that allowing him to have his own way, letting him do exactly, everything he wanted was showing him how much I love him. How wrong can one be…
Recently I really started to regret giving into John and letting him have the consoles in the first instance and then letting play so much on them when he got them – I always remember hearing Sharon Osbourne’s kids saying “Why didn’t you ever say NO to us? Why did you let us have and do everything we want?” Those kids were questioning their parent’s methods of discipline; to me this says it all. I had realised that I had done much the same as Sharon Osbourne (but on a budget). Kids need discipline and routine and I had been an irresponsible parent and let John have and do what he wanted. In the last year he hasn’t wanted to do much other than play with this technology. But it wasn’t his fault – we learn from our parents don’t we. It was definitely all my doing.
For me guilt didn’t help, I felt guilty for having to go to work and for not being there to drop him off to school and pick him up. I think a lot of mums experience these emotions. And do you know I think my son knew it, he isn’t a vindictive or nasty child but like all children he would play on my emotions and try to use this to his advantage especially when it came to getting his way and doing what he wanted to do.
As a result of technology – consoles, internet and TV and with me letting him become this way he was obsessed, gripped, by gadgets and he had become 3 stone overweight. I was so devastated, how could I let this happen. I was messing up my son’s future and health by giving in to his wants. At first I didn’t know how to put it right but I realised that I had to discover a way.
I tried everything and with some tough love things did start to get a little better but the entire house was miserable for weeks. John kept to my new house rules and we would spend more time together doing school work and what a chore he made it – he had a long face and constantly moaned. He did also only spend an hour a day on the consoles and did watch less TV. Instead we got out board games but all I ever heard was “I am fed up”. I felt like I was trying to wean him off a drug. We would go swimming once a week and walks at a weekend which we enjoyed but that really wasn’t enough exercise and it was still apparent that when we were at home we were doing way too much sitting down. I realised that I wasn’t getting it quite right. How could I stimulate and inspire him? How could I motivate & encourage him and reawaken his enthusiasm for other activities? How could I get him moving around at home instead of slouching around the house?
I got onto the internet and I searched long and hard. I puzzled over it for hours, the PC screen began to blur and my eyes ached. I really started to detest technology; it made me feel lethargic and drained. I began to reminisce about my little boy that loved digging in the garden, playing with his cars. Zooming in and out the house he was full of life and energy, his eagerness was such a contrast to now. I walked over to the games console and picked up the wireless control – what could I get that was similar to this that didn’t mean he was sat in front of a screen, what could I get that would get him of his chair and get him jumping around full of life? Then it dawned on me… Continue reading ‘Fat & Obsessed With Technology – How Could I Find a Way to Get My Child’s Weight in Check?’ »